Every New Beginning Comes from Some Other Beginning’s End
If you're a child of the '90s/early 00s, the song Closing Time will give you nostalgia from graduations and the last song that played at 2:00AM when your college bar closed. Lately, I've been philosophically pondering endings, beginnings, fears, and desires (#mood). In thinking about endings and beginnings, I have an update from a past newsletter about one of my favorite real-life modern romance stories.
My Favorite Modern Love Story. Five months ago, I came across The Tokyo Blind Date by Nick Gray. (Read the original post here). It remains my favorite, real-life, modern romance story. While I was on the edge of my seat cheering that this would end with happily ever after, it didn't. Now, I appreciate the ending more. We see things as worthwhile when they work out, but living life for the plot creates a story worth experiencing.
It Ends Before It Begins. Fears steal desire before it begins. In both personal and professional conversations, I've heard phrases such as:
What if I start dating again and become a love addict?
What if I start over-cleaning my house, and it looks like a museum?
I'm afraid I'll become money-hungry if I make more money.
Taking a vacation will lead to more stress, so why bother?
You're not alone if you've experienced any of these thoughts. Fear stories protect us from the unfamiliar yet rob our joy, creativity, and courage. Dread creeps in when we experience fear as true. Writing an undesirable ending to a story before it begins keeps familiar pain intact. What if you challenged yourself to write a new, captivating beginning rather than a fearful ending?
Thoughts (Also, I just learned what tl;dr means. So here's your tl;dr):
For those of us in the dating pool, what if we dated to date rather than hyper-focusing on an outcome? Let's defy jaded pragmatic dating and be a bit more romantic in the process.
Couples looking to revive romance, what if you identified as a creative couple? How can you revive romance and excitement from the beginning days of dating?
Being bold is a practice. The ROI is infinite.
Beautiful beginnings are just as worthwhile pursuits as happily ever afters.
To Beautiful Beginnings,
Brittani
